Love Dependency Test: How Clingy Are You, and How Do You Depend?

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Love Dependency Test: How Clingy Are You, and How Do You Depend?

24 questions, 3 axes: a love-dependency score plus one of 4 types (chase or test × give or take). Codependency and attachment anxiety, explained calmly.

“Clingy” is a blunt word, but what it describes can be explained by psychology. Your mood depends on their reaction (outsourced self-worth). You check in through texts or control (attachment anxiety). You wear yourself down giving (codependency). You need them to fill you up (need for approval). This test uses 24 questions to measure two separate things. The first 18 find the shape of your dependency, chase or test, give or take, as one of 4 types. The last 6 measure its depth as a love-dependency score (T-score style, average 50). Don't overthink it; go with the first answer that comes to mind.

5 min · 24 Q

What this diagnosis reveals

Frequently asked questions

What is a “clingy” or love dependency test, and what does it tell me?

“Clingy” is slang, not a psychological term. This test takes the behaviors the word usually points at, mood set by their reaction, checking through texts or control, dangling a breakup to test them, wearing yourself down giving, and measures them as a love-dependency score (T-score style) and one of 4 dependency types. It does not diagnose any condition; it shows you your own pattern in love.

What are the signs of love dependency?

The classic five: your day's mood is set by their texts or their mood; you cut your own plans and friendships to fit them; you can't stand a gap in contact; you are almost never single for long; you swallow what you really think so you won't be disliked. Underneath is a structure where self-worth is topped up by the other person's reaction, what psychologists call outsourced self-esteem.

Why do I depend on my boyfriend so much?

Most often because your supply of self-worth has narrowed to one person. When approval from friends, work and hobbies dries up, his reaction becomes the only deposit, and one reply can move your value up or down. An anxious attachment tendency, a past where giving less meant being left, and a partner whose affection comes in waves all make it stronger.

Can love dependency be fixed?

Yes. It is a learned pattern, not a personality, so it can change. Three things work: spread the pivot of your mood beyond the partner (friends, work, hobbies); pause for one breath before you check or test; say worry and resentment in words instead of acting them out. If it is disrupting daily life or work, talking to a mental health professional is a sound option.

How is it different from codependency?

Love dependency means your mood can't hold without the other person. Codependency adds a role: you keep the relationship going by taking on their problems. It shows up as carrying their debt or instability, or feeling safest when you are needed. In this test, the giving-side types, the Devoted Chaser and the Silent Tester, sit closest to codependency.