One of the results of this diagnosis
The Push-Pull Drifter
Go cold, make them chase, feel filled
You move them by pulling back, and feel loved only by how far they move.
You don't chase. You go cold, cut contact, dangle a breakup, and watch whether they come after you. You feel filled only in the moment they do; if they don't, it confirms “I knew it.” This is close to what psychology calls fearful-avoidant attachment, where avoidance and anxiety fire together. The belief that runs it: the only way to confirm love is to make them chase. They get tired, and you test more often.
