The Come-Close-Then-Run Fearful-Avoidant Partner

Your partner is the "Come-Close-Then-Run Fearful-Avoidant Partner," high in both abandonment anxiety and avoidance of intimacy.

One day they're asking "Do you love me?"; another day they go dark. They get jealous, yet dodge any talk of the future. When you come close they pull back; when you pull back they chase. The swings have probably worn you out. But inside them, "I want to be loved" and "being loved will hurt me" are ringing at the same time, and they can't stop it either. Up next: what this partner really feels, how to stay out of the swing, the art of not chasing, and the quiet signs it may be time to leave.

All types

🏠 The Calm Secure Partner Doesn't cling, doesn't run. Someone who moves from trust in the relationship 📱 The Chasing Anxious Partner Needs to check, needs to stay connected. Someone who is afraid of distance 🧱 The Walled-Off Avoidant Partner Pulls back when you get close. Shows no weakness. Someone who stands alone 🌗 The Come-Close-Then-Run Fearful-Avoidant Partner Wants to be loved, but being loved is frightening. Someone who runs hot and cold in turns