The Calm Secure Type

You're the "Calm Secure Type," low in both abandonment anxiety and avoidance of intimacy.

You're not afraid to get close, and you don't get thrown by your partner's small gestures. You can be the harbor your partner can always come home to. In psychology this is the "secure" style—the calmest way of loving, and one only about half the population has. Up next, we go deep on your strengths, the traps you fall into when you let your guard down, how to support an anxious or avoidant partner, and which attachment styles you're most compatible with.

All types

⚓ The Calm Secure Type Low anxiety, low avoidance—love's "secure base" 💓 The Preoccupied Anxious Type A love that reaches hard and fears abandonment 🗝️ The Self-Reliant Avoidant Type A love that keeps its distance and stands complete alone 🌪️ The Stormy Fearful-Avoidant Type A love that longs to reach yet flees in fear